Comments:

Creda - 2004-12-13 21:19:55
Wow, does this resonate with me! We stopped going back for Xmases a couple years, and I'm soooo glad we made that change. It was tough at first--lots of grumbling and guilt trips--but everyone adjusted and now it seems okay, 'cause we go back at other times on OUR terms. Good luck with this, Rowan.
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LR - 2004-12-14 09:16:22
You should do whatever you want to do and consider the family. Like they want to see YOU right? Choose another time that suits you. There�s always the phone...If it�s really that important that they �be� with you, you can call them and everyone can pass around the phone...that way you�re there but not there and can visit them in person when things aren�t crazy. I�m rather hermit-y . I invite people over �from 4 to 8� and mean it. �Party�s over! It�s 8 PM. Go home so I can clean up and get in bed at a decent hour. Love ya!� : )
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fae - 2004-12-14 12:34:18
we're staying home, too. Wahoo!
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Willow - 2004-12-14 15:16:04
Yes, it's OK to stay home. That's what we do now. It caused a lot of trouble at first, but they've calmed down and are now just happy to see us when we come in the Spring. It's so much less stressful, and I don't feel pressured to participate in holidays I don't believe in. Good Luck!
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Ahnalyse - 2004-12-14 16:13:19
Its so different for me because I have children..small ones. But even tho I dont believe in the christian belief of christmas, it is still my favorite holiday to celebrate. Does this make me personally a hypocrite? Who knows. But the joy for my children overrides everything I feel inside. In your situation, you do what you feel you need to do. You know what's right for you. I like the idea of calling and passing the phone around! Do whats good for you girl *hug*
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